To change the negative thoughts
holding you back in life,
start with the Home page and
work through each section.
search this site
Section 2 - Changing our automatic responses
|On this page|
Order from chaos
Figure 07: Chaotic thoughts, attitudes and emotions
Build a relationship with your Inner Child
Build a relationship with your Guide
The process of inner child work
Figure 08: The process of inner child work
TED Talks presentation - by Dr. Nadine Burke-Harris
About belief systems
Figure 09: Inner child work fits all my pieces together
|Scroll up or down to show or hide menu bar|
Order from chaos
When our thoughts are filled with negativity (chaos), it can be challenging to find peace and calm (order). When something is worrying or angering us, it can be almost impossible to stop thinking about it. The thought keeps endlessly repeating and after a while, we may not even hear it anymore - but it is still repeating. Without resolution, these often-repeated thoughts create accidents, illness and chronic confusion for us by lowering our vibrational frequency and keeping us stuck in feedback loops, to say nothing of creating karmic situations.
The key to changing our automatic responses to our daily life experiences is to discover our reasons for choosing to respond the way we do. Those reasons can be found deep within our childhood memories and require focused effort to reveal. Inner child work is the practice of recovering the memories and resolving the issues they created. This initiates the spiritual decluttering process. Begin by building a relationship with your inner child, and then with your guide.
Start doing things to support and honour yourself and to encourage self-expression. Do the things that you loved to do (or wished you could do) as a child: drawing, colouring, finger-painting, running, playing skip-rope or hopscotch, hula-hooping, writing in a diary, or whatever gave you comfort and/or joy. Use your imagination. These activities will help your inner child to feel acknowledged, respected, safe and secure. Aim to do this at least once or twice per each week, even if only for 30 minutes or an hour. Whatever you do, try to memorialize your thoughts and experiences by journaling.
We are accompanied in life by our guide/teaching angel who is a messenger of God; a divine representative. The guides are the bridge connecting us with the Universal Intelligence. Nothing escapes their notice. Nothing in our experience is ignored or overlooked. Our thoughts are every bit as audible to our guide as the spoken word is to us. In fact, our entire life experience is recorded in our akashic record.
Identify a negative behaviour
The first step is to identify any negative behaviour that causes problems for us. Could be addictions, chronic lateness, verbal sniping, withholding communication as a punishment, pathological lying, feeling like a victim, or any pattern that you wish you could change.
Learn its root cause
Recall the thoughts, attitudes and emotions that you felt when it happened. Recall the decision that said, "I am going to (fill in the blank)". This could be something as simple as “I am never going to cry again” or as complex as “I am not worthy of respect or love” or “I am bad”. The decision you made then is the root cause that continues to create negativity in your life because it was made without understanding. Unresolved experiences tend to replay in our thoughts as we continually try to figure out why they happened. We get triggered whenever we are reminded either of the event, or of the conclusion we drew from it. Inner child work enables us to learn our motivations and validates our painful experiences. It also helps us to see that we were not solely responsible for their occurrence because after all, as children, we are simply not responsible.
Grieve the losses it has caused
The third step is to feel the emotions and think the thoughts that could not be expressed as a child. Grieve the losses that were felt, and say the angry thoughts out loud, if possible. Cry, cry, cry. Let it all out, as scary as that may sound, for crying is an important part of the physical (and spiritual) healing process. Unresolved, repressed or suppressed issues create harmful toxins in the body and crying provides an escape route for them. Acknowledge the pain that made us choose to react the way we did, without understating its importance.
The fourth step is to forgive, both self and others. This is a crucial action. Without forgiveness, we remain stuck in the past, constantly replaying unresolved experiences in our thoughts, hoping that somehow we will be able to figure out why they happened, or that we will be able to magically transcend the experience just by remembering it.
The final step is to appreciate the peace that comes from resolving an issue. Revel in it, and use the satisfaction as a reason to keep on working on yourself. Then it will be time to identify another negative behaviour and repeat the process.
Food for thought
Identify another negative behaviour
Our core belief systems are incredibly powerful. Our
self-esteem depends on them; they determine how we interpret and experience life. We begin forming them in childhood and our innate confirmation bias ensures that we continue to find them to be true.
Many of the experiences we have as children are written off by our caregivers as being unimportant, or even worse, the Truth of the experiences becomes wrapped in their denial. We can end up believing that we are wrong or crazy or just plain bad (the source of many of our issues), so we must validate ourselves. Finding Universal Truth through meditation enables us to become strong and confident by ensuring that our beliefs are based in Truth, rather than having to rely on someone else’s biased version of our pivotal life vents.
The next step on the path to spiritual awareness is learning to meditate in a new way.
1. What is needed before beginning inner child work?
We need to build a loving, supportive relationship with our inner child, as well as a functioning relationship with our guide.
2. What are the five steps of inner child work?
3. How do our belief systems impact our lives?
Our self-esteem depends on them. For better or for worse, they determine how we interpret and experience life.
This site uses statcounter web analytics to track statistics using a 3rd party analytics cookie. No personal information is stored in the cookie. To set a Refusal cookie for your web browser, visit statcounter.com
|© Copyright: Sheila A. McBeath 1999-2022 |
All Rights Reserved ISBN 978-1-7753521-2-9
If you print, reproduce or use any of this information, credit "Making Change in Our Lives (a workbook)" by Sheila A. McBeath within your material. Do not alter the content.
|Pay it forward|
If the spirit moves you, please donate to your favourite charity or perform community service.
The information in this website and/or e-book is provided as spiritual information only. It is not to be used or relied upon for medical diagnosis or treatment. Consult your healthcare provider before making healthcare decisions. Your use of this web site and/or e-book means that you accept these terms.
With thanks for this Initial basic layout from thesitewizard.com
end of page