Our daily thoughts, attitudes and emotions help to
create our physical reality - for better or for worse. This list of physical
conditions along with their spiritual component is not exhaustive; nor does
each possibility listed necessarily pertain to each condition.
Full list
Not meant as a substitute for seeking medical attention
Better to find spiritual resolution for personal issues - in conjunction
with medical treatment - to gain full and permanent healing
Unable or unwilling
to meet responsibilities. Form of
abandonment. It is easy to become
addicted to not showing up for appointments or showing up late.
This pattern can infuriate those who are relying on us and is the source
of many of life’s difficulties. See
dawdling Spiritual effects of the pattern: Unable or
unwilling to follow through on commitments Physical effects of the pattern:
Depression,
hypothyroidism How to change the pattern:
Meditate to find the reason for the desire or need to annoy people
by behaving irresponsibly
Desire to prove that we are not as good as we hope everyone thinks. Injuries are a way to bring attention to the fact that we are in
pain and distress
and in dire need of nurturing or sympathetic attention. Injuries can be used as an excuse to under-perform, and often occur just before one's performance is to be judged or tested (fear of
failure/success, fear of being
shamed or honored)
Physical result
of spiritual desire to run away (from truth, from life, from responsibilities).
Can be to a chemical substance like food, tobacco, drugs or alcohol,
or to a behaviour. See
abandonment,
obsessive/compulsive behaviours.
Since addictions begin as behaviours, they can be modified, and even,
in certain cases, released completely. To bring about such dramatic
change requires great strength, determination and commitment, but change
is possible. Of course, until the root cause of the need for the behaviour
has been recognized and released, the likelihood of recurrence exists.
Very often, the root cause is simply the belief that "God must hate
me" (see
unconditional love).
Excessive gambling can be caused by a chronic need to win (to prove
that "God loves me"). Spiritual symptoms of advanced addictions vary
from telling constant stories about how everybody's 'done me wrong'
(whether true or not), to
pathological lying, to using
guilt trips to manipulate others and avoid making decisions
Unresolved
pain and agony over one's childhood, and/or the children one has had
or not had. Agonizing over the sort of parents one had or the sort of
parent one has been
Represent our
ability to regulate our reaction to emotional stress Acute adrenal
failure
(Addisonian crisis)
- Can occur when one learns that a cherished belief system is false Addison's disease
- Occurs if we constantly pretend to give up (play
victim) whenever someone tries to hold us accountable for our actions.
Done in the hope that we will be excused from responsibility by appearing
to be weak and non-threatening. Example: A child (age not important)
tells the parent that they want to be treated with kindness and respect.
The parent responds by saying "I did everything for you, sacrificed
and slaved away. You have to love me, respect me and allow me to treat
you however I like. But now you’ve turned on me and want to hold me
accountable me for not doing every little thing just right. This is
how you repay me for all my efforts!" This reaction makes it appear
that the parent - the
martyr - wants to just fade away, disappear or die, in the hope
of punishing the ungrateful child for being so mean (guilt
trip) Congenital
adrenal hyperplasia - Results from parent(s)' inability or unwillingness
to provide the child with the spiritual necessities of life (unconditional
love, compassion, emotional support, etc.) Cushing Syndrome
- Unable or unwilling to
trust and just be at
peace Primary
adrenal insufficiency when due to: Autoimmune disease
- Holding self to excessively high standards, but wondering why since
no one really cares Bleeding
into adrenal glands - Occurs after physical injury, which occurs
after an extremely painful emotional injury that makes us question the
reason for bothering to stay alive Other infections of the
adrenal glands - Disappointing realization that we really have
no control over what others think of us Spread of cancer to the
adrenal glands - Severe erosion of one's faith in human decency
after being on the receiving end of harsh criticism, even though self
is extremely critical and judgmental. It's only all right for me
to be honest Tuberculosis - Belief that one is weak. Feeling at the mercy
of those who are strong and in a position of power. Giving up on self's
ability to survive. See also
AIDS / HIV Secondary
adrenal insufficiency if due to: Diseased pituitary
gland - Feeling that one is at risk of being harmed by invisible
enemies Sudden withdrawal of
corticosteroid treatment - Occurs after feeling that one has
lost the support of the allies who should never have stopped being supportive
Many believe
that AIDS/HIV is a punishment sent from God. It is not (see
Unconditional Love). Can occur in the presence of utter despair
or deep
shame, or where there is a complete lack of self-respect
or sense of self-worth. Can occur if one has been
deprived of approval from one's caregivers and/or loved ones. Can
occur when one is the
victim of someone's selfish lack of regard for others. See
herpes,
tuberculosis
Occur as a
life lesson for those who may have - in a previous existence - made
less-than-considerate choices for someone in their care who was
fully dependent
Denying or unaware
of our chronic, desperate need to avoid discussing painful issues or
sensitive subjects, yet yearning to bring them out into the open. The
issue here is fighting with self over whether to discuss something that
is important to us or to keep it hidden. Of course we all have reasons
for wanting to avoid discussing some subjects; often it’s because we
think others will react horribly when we raise topics that they themselves
wish to avoid.
This not knowing which topics are safe to discuss - the indecision -
creates a push-pull effect on the body. Nerves and muscles are unconsciously
tightened and relaxed at a furious pace, creating unimaginable strain
on the systems. After many years of living with this pattern, damage
occurs at cellular level. The body is eventually unable to cope and
certain genes become affected, creating ALS.
Why doesn’t everyone with this issue develop ALS? For those with the
condition, the behaviour is severe, chronic and long-standing. It’s not
just one topic that is avoided - the indecision manifests in all choices
of topics to share or avoid discussing. Those that are discussed that
meet with negative responses or reactions cause us to
judge,
criticize and
condemn ourselves for creating trouble. Those that are kept hidden
remain in the thoughts creating further damage.
The challenge is to change the pattern, that is, to share and discuss
what is important to us, in the knowledge that we cannot control how
others react. Their reactions are just that - their reactions
Major physical
life change that can create challenges to one's self-esteem. Can show
how well or poorly we adapt to change. Can help us better understand
the challenges that face adolescents as they experience puberty, or
the physical challenges that face females throughout life (see
compassion). Combining hormonal treatments with
meditating to understand the spiritual component of the physical issues arising, can reduce frequency and duration of symptoms
Represent self-assurance
or lack thereof Arthritis
- Chronic self-doubt Breaks - Regretting a recent life choice and wanting - yet not wanting - to
change it back (indecision)
Fat or swollen - Overcompensating for a perceived weakness Sprains - Trying to force self into making an important decision Strains - Unable to choose the best course of action Weak -
Fear of having to be independent; lack of
trust in self
Over-compensating for a perceived weakness in a particular area. Often develops after
a joint has been injured, but releasing anger and
blame over the injury can be help to prevent it from forming Ankles - Chronic self-doubt Bone spurs - Physical outcome of chronic unforgiveness, whether of self or others Feet - Emotional pain from past experiences that has not yet been released (habitual lack of
forgiveness for self and others). Every new emotional injury adds
to the buildup Gout - Denying our habitual anger with a parent or other authority figure Hands - Placing excessive importance on what others are doing wrong
(judgment,
criticism,
condemnation). Lots of finger-pointing.
Fear that all that needs to be done will not get done in time Hips - Inability to move forward for fear of leaving someone or something behind, of being
left behind, or of becoming useless. Unable / unwilling to release an out-dated belief system Knees -
Distrust in our ability to recover from defeat or loss. Habitually living in
victim mode, always fearing the next offense. See
knee problems, fear of invasion Neck - Over-compensating for a lack of belief in self Psoriatic - Habitually alternating self-condemnation
with self-indulgence. Pattern stems from one's caregiver(s) having been alternatingly, and unpredictably, too harsh/too loving. Our immune system
becomes out of control as a result of not knowing whether to expect cruelty or kindness from those around us, and over-compensates with self-protection just in case. See also
Psoriasis Reactive - Concealing our true reaction to a threat to our
self-esteem. Since symptoms do not usually start until from one to four weeks after the triggering event, it can be challenging to recall the thought. Try to recall what was happening at the time of
the initial infection anyway, because the information will assist the healing process Rheumatoid - Unable to accept that we are ok. Belief that we are bad or unworthy
because after all, that is what we were raised to believe. Chronic griping about what everyone else is doing, saying and/or thinking in the hope
that people will see our goodness.
Anger,
guilt,
shame,
victim Shoulders - Belief that we are indispensable, or belief that we are carrying a heavier
load than everyone else (see bunions,
bronchitis) Spine(Ankylosing spondylitis) - Fundamental belief that is based in untruth and illogic
(and of course that means that everybody else's belief is wrong, wrong, wrong)
Hiding the truth that one believes to be ugly and wishes were untrue but thinking it doesn't matter what
we believe anyway because no one can read our mind, right?
The child has joined the family to experience what it's like to be reliant on the
good will of one's caregivers. Whether the soul encounters kindness or cruelty, there is tremendous opportunity for spiritual growth
Holding back tears. Unable/unwilling to enjoy life (spite).
Unable/unwilling to verbally express sorrow and/or distress. Looking for a way out,
fear of being caught and held responsible. Not wanting to hear,
denial
Represents patience and tolerance for those expressing needs or strong emotions Bladder problems - Lack of
patience, fear of expression of strong emotions. See
urinary tract infections Infection -
Avoidance, ashamed of and/or hating self for being unable to stop having strong emotions Inflammation -
Anger (pissed off) and unwillingness to express it because "they" should already know Interstitial cystitis - Unable to relax and fully
trust that everything is ok Leaky - Unable to deal with life's many little frustrations Prolapsed - Not knowing when to hold onto, or let go of, emotional baggage and
unable to stop thinking about it all
Substance that transports the vibrational frequency of our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and
desires to each component of our physical body Anemia - Giving up. Feeling powerless and angry that everyone else seems to have so much power. See
blame, victim Cancer - Belief that the Universe is out to get me (in children - can be a reflection of parent's belief systems) Cholesterol (high) - Believing self to be the good person who never acts out of malice (self-righteousness).
Nothing is ever quite good enough (criticism).
Nothing ever works out quite right (victim).
Never receiving recognition from others for our supposed sacrifices (martyr) Hematoma - Difficulty in processing a recent blow to one's ego Hemophilia - Family pattern resulting from a fear of retribution.
See legacy guilt
Represents temperament, self-control High - Constant anger and frustration, whether voiced aloud or not. See
anger, stroke Low - Giving up on life. Wondering why what one used to do is no longer getting the same results.
See anemia,
thyroid
Excessive body odour can be a form of
silent rebellion. Can begin as an act of spite. Withholding approval, flaunting a lack of
respect for others or self. Note: This does not refer to those
who have limited access to bathing or laundry facilities.
Represents inflexibility Elbow - Complaining that others aren't doing enough (because we're unwilling to do our fair share) Hip - Anger and
distress about the constant changes that life brings Knee - Angry about feeling unprotected Shoulder - Unvented explosive anger and resentment
Represents obsessive/compulsive thoughts about a specific subject Bladder - Obsessed with the injustices one has suffered (lack of
forgiveness). Unwilling to take responsibility for self, yet feeling forced into accepting it Blood - Belief that the Universe is out to get us (in children, can be a reflection of parent's belief systems) Bone - Belief system that is not based in Universal Truth (in children, can be a reflection of parent(s)’ belief systems) Brain - Firm belief in one’s own badness (chronic self-condemnation) Breast - Can be any/all of the following: Taking on a persona that we feel was thrust upon us by others or by negative life experiences. Belief that how we treat
self and others is nurturing, when it is not. Nursing grudges (resentment).
Feeling unloved or unlovable. Needing to mother or be mothered. Living with the constant threat of someone's emotional abuse, feeling responsible
for it when it happens, and feeling unable to stand up for self. Appreciating self for saying, "No" to an abuser, yet still wanting the abuser to
somehow magically change into a good person (control).
Longing to be loved and appreciated (craving everyone's positive attention) Cervix - Obsessive thoughts about the child (or children) that one could have/should have or shouldn't have birthed Colon - Holding onto every little hurt and making sure that everyone knows we're wounded. Each
new offense adds to the burden and strengthens our resolve to not do anything about it Gallbladder - Poisonous thoughts that have infiltrated every belief one has about life and the
process of living, and hating self for thinking them Kidney - Processing our life experiences with a chronic “poor me” attitude (victim) Liver - Processing our life experiences with an “everybody else is an idiot and has caused all my problems" attitude
(blame), or "I'm an idiot and everybody else is better than me"
(self-condemnation). Deep-seated, long-standing
anger and feeling fully justified in holding onto it. Feeling
abandoned. See
liver diseases Lung - If the individual smokes, look for the real reason for starting to smoke. If the individual has never smoked, could be a “smothering” attitude (smothering the truth,
smothering a loved one, or being smothered by a loved one, etc.). Is the individual in a
co-dependent relationship? Lymphatic system - Inability/unwillingness to forgive (self or others). Extreme, chronic
resentment that creates the need to inflict pain on others. Living
in emotional turmoil. Victim, seemingly unable to protect oneself Melanoma (skin) - Covering oneself in a shroud of negativity, can be self-hatred or
self-righteousness. Look to the affected area of the body for understanding Mouth - Chewing on poisonous words. Incorrect belief system(s) that negatively flavours all of life's experiences Ovary - Unable/unwilling to let go of the life that could have / should have been with the child
we could have / should have had. Fearing that God has forsaken us or is punishing us by not giving us what we want. Strong belief that something is terribly wrong with
us and with anything we create Pancreas - Chronic need to
control everyone and everything. Deep frustration with any
imperfection. Always feeling second- or third-best Pleomorphic liposarcoma - Desperate to hide one's shameful secrets and living in constant
fear that they will be discovered Prostate - Refusal to accept responsibility for the negativity in one’s life (blame,
victim) Sinus cavities - Belief that one has become obsolete and feeling very insulted about it
(see nose) Stomach - Eating a spiritual diet filled with sickening thoughts about self, others, God, or the world in which we live.
Chronic distress about one's life experience Throat - Trying to swallow a false story, or trying to feed someone else a false story; living a lie. Feeling stifled. Chronic choking back of tears or words. Wanting
someone to meet our unexpressed emotional needs Thyroid - Failure to monitor our spoken words and filter out judgment,
criticism and
condemnation, believing that it's ok to share hurtful information because we think it's truth and "they" need to hear it Uterus - Obsessive thoughts of one's failure to create perfection (self-condemnation)
Inability to accept nurturing, yet believing that we are nurturing others, or feeling
compelled to nurture everyone (control).
Can occur when our job ends or if a child leaves home. Feeling that life has lost purpose
Represents our ability to meet challenges Broken - Shattered self-confidence because of a recent life-changing experience Pimples - Taking things to heart that don't concern us personally Trembling or twitching - Strong urge to express our thoughts or feelings
Believing self to be the good person who never acts out of malice (self-righteousness).
Nothing is ever quite good enough (criticism).
Nothing ever works out quite right (victim).
Never receiving enough recognition from others for our supposed sacrifices (martyr)
Represent either an unspoken need for attention or a desire to be invisible Note: This category does not refer to those who have no choice about what they wear, or who lack access to laundry services. Ill-fitted - Too big - Wanting to hide yet hoping to be seen; wishing for sympathetic attention Ill-fitted - Too small - Trying to create drama and chaos with self at centre Inappropriate - Casual - Displays a lack of regard for the things that others respect and/or admire Inappropriate - Formal - Wanting to escape reality, wanting to not be held responsible Inappropriate - Revealing - Desire to throw people off balance so as to maintain control of the situation Loud dresser - Silently begging to be confronted to justify a wish to shout someone down. Defiant Quiet dresser - Desire to avoid contact or communication of any sort Soiled - Form of silent rebellion
Degenerative brain disorder resulting from a core belief based in untruth Spontaneous (sporadic) - Firm belief in a false truth that developed as a result of our negative
reaction(s) to life experiences. Any attempt by others to question or challenge the belief is met with firm (and possibly explosive)
anger and refusal to consider other possibilities Familial (inherited) - Firmly believing a false truth that our caregivers repeatedly reinforced
in a negative way, that they believed was nurturing Iatrogenic (contamination through medical procedures) - Belief that medicine alone is capable
of, and is responsible for, repairing any damage sustained through life experiences Variant (contamination through eating beef infected with the abnormal prion protein) - Crippling
innacurate belief is intertwined with our identity
This disorder raises the question of how a cow with supposedly no thoughts or belief systems, could possibly develop a disease with a
spiritual component of incorrect belief system(s). The answer, while it may seem ridiculous at this point in current understanding, is thus:
this planet and all its magnificent expressions of intelligence in physical form are present to learn, and to teach, one another. For more information, check out my blog: Why do we get sick / suffer injuries / have accidents?
Gradual (or sudden) loss of one's ability to handle traumatic events. Each new difficult experience creates more and more pain and confirms the
belief that life will never get better. See skeleton
Condition with its basis in our self-worth and self-esteem. A wave of depression often occurs if we suspect that we have lost the approval
of someone who is very important to us. If our sense of self is completely wrapped up in that individual, as can happen when living or working in co-dependent relationships, we feel we will lose our identity without
their approval. We will do almost anything to cope with our sense of loss and deprivation. Usually this means doing any number of negative behaviours in the hope of getting that person to help us recover and
buy back into the relationship. Then, we tell ourselves, everything will be ok again.
And it is, for a little while. Until, almost from out of the blue, another experience will trigger another wave of self-hatred. Then we’re right back where we started … punishing and hurting ourselves ... going on
a binge of alcohol or drug usage, starving ourselves or overeating / purging, withholding communication, shopping for things we don’t need with money we don’t have, cutting ourselves until we bleed, attempting
suicide, stopping doing the things we truly love to do … oh, the list is endless.
There is another way to live, but it means changing how we relate to others, and most especially, how we relate to ourselves. It means becoming aware of our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires. If
this pattern is hurting your quality of life, visit Section 1 and get started finding profound change
Lack of
faith or hope that the future can be good or belief that it will not be good. Chronic state of
distress; habitual belief that something bad is about to happen. Giving up. In children, can occur after the family receives a devastating blow Secondary effects of Diabetes Blindness - Unable or unwilling to see that which needs to be seen Gangrenous extremities - Chronic placing of self into “victim
mode” as a way to control and manipulate others Kidney failure - Extremely difficult to please, chronic temper tantrums, whether voiced aloud or not. See
criticism,
perfectionism
Represents how we absorb and release spiritual life lessons Anorexia - Desperate need to be in control; withholding food as a punishment (either of self
or someone else). Belief that we are not worthy because a loved one stubbornly withholds their approval Appendicitis - Living with constant
criticism whether from self or another. Trying to digest a cruel idea that we know to be false Bloating - Putting too much emphasis on self. See
ego, self-importance Bulimia - Cycle of self-approval,
guilt and then punishment. Both anorexia and bulimia can become
OCD behaviours Burping -
Fear of being forgotten, ignored or lost in the shuffle Constipation (IBS) -
Greed, trying to hold onto everything. Withholding approval (of self or another).
Control, refusal to comply with authority figures.
Denial. Stuck in the past - trying to hold onto it, yet wanting
to change it. Withholding forgiveness. Can indicate
co-dependent relationships Diarrhea (IBS) - Wanting to hurry into the future, yet afraid to let go of the past.
Condemnation,
distress,
fear. If a baby or toddler, can indicate that someone is trying to make them hurry up and get going Diverticular perforation -
Blaming everyone but self for our toxic, dysfunctional relationships, and astonished and furious that they don't change. Remember, we play a critical role in creating our relationships, so change is up to us Diverticulitis -
Blaming others for failing to prevent unpleasant experiences from happening and refusing to forgive them for it Fistula - Feeling pressured into taking shortcuts Flatulence - Feeling that one is always being overlooked and angry about it;
self-importance. Trapped abdominal gas - see distress Food allergies - Deep need to receive loving attention from a particular authority figure. Chronic
fear that one is in imminent danger but not knowing what to do about it and believing that no one will come to help Food poisoning - Signal that we strongly dislike one or more of the topics of conversation during a meal but unable or unwilling to state our true feelings Gastroenteritis (includes Norovirus Infection (Norwalk Virus) - Belief that others are telling horrible stories about us and that
everyone (even us) believes them to be truth, but wishing it weren't so. Infectious - Self-loathing that manifests in physical as craving to hear the worst
about others (see gossip) to make oneself feel less "bad", and Non-infectious
- Believing self to be the only "bad" person in the world Gluttony - Fear that one will not be given one’s fair share, so taking everything
that’s offered and more. Applies to food and other substances as well as attention. Greed Heartburn/Indigestion - Always angry about something.
Strong dislike of what one is hearing / seeing / thinking / experiencing Hemorrhoid - Trying to win the approval of an authority figure who stubbornly withholds it. Feeling pressured to hurry and feeling that there's just not enough
time. Pushing too hard/trying to force someone or something into doing what you want Loose bowel - Belief that one has no credibility.
Condemnation, victim Mineral or Vitamin deficiency - Unable to grasp and absorb the key meaning of an ongoing issue. A missing piece of critical information
would connect the pieces of the puzzle, if only it could be understood.
Meditate to find the answer Pica - Desperate to find the reason for all the pain and suffering in one's life. See
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Ulcerative colitis - Taking on responsibility for everyone's negative experiences and feeling the need to be punished for them
Desperate for love and approval but not knowing where to look for it.
Worry, worry, worry. Trying to do everything (control).
Trying to avoid seeing an uncomfortable truth, denial
Represent how
we interpret that which we hear Burning -
Condemnation,
embarrassment,
shame Deafness -
Fear of abandonment. Fear of hearing what’s not being spoken. Wanting the noise to stop. Selective
deafness - Blocking out information that disagrees with our beliefs is like wearing a cone of silence. Can be a crippling pattern,
preventing open discussion about any potentially contentious matter (politics, religion, healthcare, etc.). Can result from a desperate
need to be in control and correct. Change the pattern: Visit
WikiHow and learn how to deal with disagreement Earache - Distress about our spiritual environment (lots of arguing and finger-pointing (blame)),
and feeling hopeless that it will ever change Eustachian tube blockage - Unwilling to pay attention to that which we ought, for fear of causing
havoc in the family Fungus - Low self-esteem,
shame, unshed tears over what's being heard or not heard Labyrinthitis - Confusion about our life purpose; feeling like we are just putting in time. Unsure of which life path to take and afraid that our entire life will be wasted in the wrong pursuit Meniere's disease - Refusing to do what one knows one ought to be doing, and making all sorts of excuses Tinnitus - Buzzing or humming - The Universal Intelligence is trying to get our attention.
They are saying that it is time to start communicating with them in a meaningful way; that we have the capability to move forward spiritually but that work on self is needed. Refer to Sections 1 through 4 for
information and instructions Tinnitus - Ringing - Thinking one knows best and not wanting any disagreement about it.
Irritation (anger) Trapped water- Hurrying through a normally enjoyable task to meet someone else's needs Wax build-up - Meeting everyone else's needs before our own. Unable or unwilling to speak out against unfair treatment
Represent our attitude toward duty Broken - Knowing it's time to change our attitude toward our mate or career but stubbornly refusing Bursitis - Complaining that others aren't doing enough but unwilling to do our fair share Golfer's elbow - Angry about all the stupid obstacles in our path Tennis elbow - Feeling forced into wasting our time and energy in the wrong pursuit
Needing to
control every little thing. Overly dependent on one's mate (co-dependent relationship). Can also be holding onto a core belief system that
is narrow-minded or out-dated (see also infertility)
Represent how we interpret that which we see Astigmatism - Unable to find something valuable on which to focus Blepharitis - Chronic sadness and not seeing that we have the power to change our circumstances.
Waiting for somebody / everybody else to do something different or be different Blindness - If not from birth, feeling that one has been blind-sided by life. Deep
fear of confronting a difficult or painful truth or a desire to hide the truth. If from birth, a major family pattern is occurring and no one sees it, but everyone is blaming someone else for making them be that way Bloodshot - Belief that someone is not seeing / appreciating all that we are doing (supposedly) for them Bruised - Displeasure with something one has observed about self (guilt) Bulging - Living in an unrecognized state of shock.
Self-righteousness Cataracts - Wanting to see the world not as it is, but as one wants it to be, or as one thinks it used to be Choroidal melanoma - Focusing on a fault or flaw in someone or something (could be self,
another or humanity at large) and believing that it cannot/will not ever change. Resigned to living with what we see as permanent imperfection, rather than taking steps to change our opinion or to help bring change Crossed eyes - Unable or unwilling to focus on that which needs to be seen or attended to, and doing whatever one can to make others fail to see it. If from birth,
see birth defects Dark circles - If caused by:
Detached retina - Fear that one has missed a very important message and that it will not be repeated Far-sighted - Focused more on others than self (avoidance,
blame). Looking ahead rather than here and now Floaters - Wanting to believe that we have no unresolved issues, yet knowing there are "spots" that need some work Glaucoma - Chronic self-righteousness.
Martyr. Attitude of “I’ll show them”, yet feeling that no one is watching because no one really cares
(abandonment). Unwilling to forgive. Prejudice, bigotry Iritis - While the underlying physical cause can vary, the spiritual component of iritis is an inability to believe that others could be unkind,
feeling that they shouldn't be that way, and not seeing that others might perceive our actions to be unkind, in other words, self-righteousness Macular degeneration - Chronic fear that one might be perceived as a weak, old fool Near-sighted - Focused more on self than others (self-importance). Living in the past Pink eye - Seeing red; looking at the world through angry or sorrowful eyes Presbyopia - Inflexibility. Is it time for a new outlook on life? Puffy - Irritated with the view Stye - Unable or unwilling to release tears over our painful experiences (it’s ok to cry!) Tearing - Negative - Holding back tears Tearing - Positive - Feelingunconditional love Twitching - Signal that something needs to be examined more closely
Represents how
we face life
How we see ourselves can manifest in the face. Facial abnormalities
in children can be a reflection of spiritual difficulties within the
family unit that are not being faced (see
avoidance,
wrinkles)
Represent how we feel about our life path Arthritis - Unresolved emotional injuries Athlete’s foot - Feeling like an unknowing, unsuspecting
victim of someone’s lack of caring Broken foot - Wishing for a troubling situation to change but unable / unwilling to do anything to make the change happen Broken or Bent toes - Big toe: Strong dislike of the direction that something important is taking. 2nd or index toe:
Condemning someone's stupid choice for creating the current negative situation. 3rd or middle toe:
Anger over one's inability to foresee the outcome of choices.4th toe:
Distress over a relationship knowing that it's futile to continue but still wanting it to work. 5th or pinky toe: Childish
reaction to a troubling situation Bunions - Avoidance - of one’s true calling, of truth, of desire, etc.
Blame. Habitually holding anyone or anything else but self responsible for our problems and failures, yet always feeling responsible
for everyone and everything. Aggravated by having to carry someone else’s load or feeling that one is carrying the whole load alone and feeling unappreciated Tailor's
Bunion - Unable or unwilling to do a certain task and
expecting others to do it for us because after all, it's easy for them because they don't have our handicap and they won't (or shouldn't) mind helping us Clubfoot - Fear of what might happen if one does one's very best and still fails to be "perfect" Corns and Calluses - Craving approval from one and all, yet pretending not to need it, and withholding it from everyone Drop foot - Fear that one is incapable of living independently Flat - Inability to stand up for oneself. Hopeless that people will ever treat us with the respect we feel we deserve. Lack of
joy in life Fungal infections - Wanting to hide, and wanting to hide from, the (supposedly) shameful, dirty truth. It is very important to remember that while God does not
ever judge, criticise or
condemn us, he does allow us to experience the logical outcomes of our spiritual choices (see
free will) Fungus - Ugly thoughts, attitudes and/or emotions eating at us (shame,
embarrassment, guilt,
condemnation) Haglund’s Deformity - What’s gnawing at us? Dissatisfaction with the path one is walking. Deep sorrow over a poor life choice and possibly
blaming someone else for it Hammertoe - Fear. Clenching. Living in dread. Feeling as if constantly walking
on broken glass Heels - Dry or cracked - Depriving self of enjoyment and
blaming someone else for doing so Heels - Narrow - Feeling that we will never be able to do what we are being expected to do Heel Spurs - Feeling abandoned or unsupported by loved ones, and so feeling fully justified
in being self-centred, self-absorbed and self-important Ingrown Toenail - Feeling like we're always running late. Spite,
revenge, blame Morton’s Neuroma - Habitually selling self short to gain sympathy or to escape responsibilities, or habitually over-stating one's abilities or accomplishments in order
to gain someone's approval Plantar Fasciitis - Regret over a life path taken that we did not desire or choose. Not that we are unhappy with the current situation; rather that we wonder
what it would have been like to have been able to follow the chosen path Plantar warts - Walking one’s path in a cold, heartless way and
blaming someone for making us be that way Sole of the foot - pain - Unable or unwilling to
forgive a hurt that someone caused, believing that it was intentional Sore feet - Walking our path with unresolved spiritual issues Toes - long - Feeling unsupported and so feeling always responsible for everyone and everything (if I don't do it, it won't get done) Toes - short - Wanting to remain in the freedom of childhood where one never had to be responsible for anyone or anything Top of the foot - pain - Fearing retribution from an unkind source
Represent how we feel about our life's work Thumb - Represents how we feel about our ability to grasp what's going on. If injured, fearing opposition or feeling opposed Index (pointer) - Represents our
tolerance (or lack thereof) of self and others. If injured, constant judgment,
criticism and
condemnation, whether directed toward self or another, whether voiced aloud or not Middle - Represents our
patience (or lack thereof) with self and others. If injured, easily offended, impatient Ring - Represents how we feel about marriage or being single, partnerships and friendships. If injured, can be unrecognized or unresolved issues with a partner or associate Baby - Represents our comfort or lack thereof with our place in the family. If injured, living in a dream world and feeling it's being threatened. If bent, can indicate
that there will be childish, whiny behaviour if one does not get what one wants or when one feels threatened Arthritis - Placing excessive importance on what others are doing wrong (judgment,
criticism, condemnation). Lots of finger-pointing.
Fear that all that needs to be done will not get done in time Bent - Can indicate that one has an incorrect belief in a particular area (area depends on the particular affected finger)
Flu symptoms often come when one is about to be tested and
fears failure. The flu is often used as an excuse to cop out of commitments that one wishes had not been made (see
avoidance). Just saying "no" can be a vaccine. Fear of being held responsible. Can result because of a deep need
for some one-on-one attention or to receive the same special considerations as one's sick friends, or a desire to be looked after H1N1 - Deep desire to be taken seriously, or to be appreciated in spite of shortcomings
Represents our ability to process, or digest, our thoughts, attitudes and emotions Abscess - Obsessive poisonous thoughts that are focused on justifying one's reasons for choosing to act or not act in a certain way Attack - Strong dislike of a decision we made a short time, up to a day or two before the attack ("What have I done?!"). We might justify the decision in
different ways, but inside, we fear that others think it was made for purely selfish reasons Biliary dyskinesia - Obsessively repeating the reasons to believe that nothing seems to work right - EVER! Could be something like, “God hates me” or, “Nobody
ever helps or supports me”. See blame, victim Cancer - Poisonous thoughts that have infiltrated every belief one has about life and the process of living, and hating self for thinking them - yet feeling the belief is fully justified Gangrene - Successfully convincing self of the truthfulness of all the horrible thoughts one has, and completely unwilling to look for other options Inflammation - Obsessively repeating thoughts about all the supposed selfless deeds one has accomplished, to build self-esteem where almost none exists or to justify one’s
self-righteousarrogance Perforation - Giving up on ever finding good in anyone or anything, especially self Polyps - Falsely soothing one's hurt feelings with bitter untruths Sclerosing Cholangitis - Repeated bouts of vicious
condemnation of self or others, followed by periods of remorse and hoping that the words are untrue but doubting that they are Stones - Common bile-duct - Obsessively
worrying about what others are thinking about us or our choices and wanting no argument or discussion about it because whatever we think is truth, right? Stones - Gallbladder - Obsessing about what others are thinking about us or our choices and believing our conclusion, which is that they think we're no good Stones - Pancreatitis - Poisonous thoughts (that we believe to be truth) about the reasons that a negative life experience occurred have tainted our beliefs about
the reasons that ALL negative experiences happen
Belief that sex is bad, or belief that God says that sex is bad, but feeling powerless to stop wanting to have it.
Guilt, self-condemnation, shame. See also
AIDS/HIV
Belief that a recent choice or action has left us open for invisible negative entities or energies to invade and torment us. Visit Section 7 of my website and read
Can negative energies and entities harm us?
Represents our thoughts Baldness (Alopecia) - Frustration with any imperfection.
Worry, worry, worry Dandruff - Chronic worry that someone in a position of power is going to judge,
criticise and condemn our work Dry - Feeling that we are at risk of imminent emotional, physical or verbal attack. If breakage occurs, can result from
anger that the perceived attack has not happened - yet Excessive hair growth (hirsutism) - Trying to cover up a secret.
Self-condemnation Hiding behind one's hair - Manoeuver to deny access to those who would dare to look or question Ingrown - Fear that one's best efforts to conceal a secret will fail Self-inflicted removal (over-plucking eyebrows, pulling out hair or excessive body hair removal) - Deep emotional or spiritual pain after a traumatic experience.
Guilt, shame,
spite
Represent how we feel about our work. If numb or
tingling, can be our guide letting us know that we're being guided, for example, if we're shopping and our hand starts tingling over a certain object - either BUY it or BYE it - that is to say,
it's time to ask whether to buy it or leave it. If problems with the hands: Back of the hand - Wanting to slap someone or fearing retribution Palm - Unable or unwilling to give and take Carpal Tunnel Syndrome - Doing a job that we would rather not be doing, and feeling unfulfilled, unappreciated and frustrated
Represents our ability to sustain self Heart disease - “You’re breaking my heart” (guilt trip;
martyr). Those with heart disease may be perceived to be heartless, or at the other end of the spectrum, selfless. Avoiding dealing with
one's own problems in favour of focusing on matters beyond one's control Heart problems in children can be a reflection of spiritual/emotional difficulties within the family unit. Heart/lung disorders can manifest
in one's physical home as drainage and/or heating/cooling system problems. Irregular heartbeat can show that one is unable or unwilling to follow a schedule or a routine. See
birth defects Aortic dissection - Extreme difficulty in understanding how someone could be so cruel Phlebitis - Fury over one’s inability to control everyone and everything. Chronic refusal to simply let go and
trust. Crippling desire to make everyone else as miserable as self
Trying too hard Femoral - Feeling trapped and wanting to run away but unable to leave the current situation for
fear of even worse conditions elsewhere.
Victim Hiatal - Living in an overly controlled environment; too much pressure to follow rules and live up to others' expectations.
Anger,
repression,
suppression Incisional - Stubbornly hanging on to old wounds (resentment)
and feeling fully justified in doing so Inguinal - Self-condemnation, trying to win over a tough critic Paresophageal - Forcing self into believing what we know to be a horrific lie in order to maintain a relationship Umbilical - Trying to force someone into a co-dependent relationship
HSV-1 (Cold sores and fever blisters) Inaccurate belief system about self, e.g., "I'm so bad" or "I'm so wonderful". Unable or unwilling to accept that we
are no better or worse than anyone else - we are just normal HSV-2 (Genital herpes) Belief that sex is bad, or belief that God says that sex is bad, but feeling powerless to stop wanting to have it.
Guilt,
self-condemnation,
shame. See AIDS/HIV Herpes zoster oticus - Desire to hide away from the ugliness and negativity in others, and either
denying or not realizing that it is within self Herpes zoster - Childish reaction to a challenging life experience. Belief that one has little or no protection from what's out there.
Victim
Represent our comfort (or lack thereof) with letting go of the past Arthritis - Inability to move forward for fear of leaving someone or something behind. Unable or unwilling to release an out-dated belief system. Can be a fear of
being left behind (abandonment) or of becoming useless Broken -
Anger that one is being forced to change because of changes that occurred that were beyond one's control. See
victim Bursitis - Anger and
distress about the constant changes that life brings
Chronic, desperate emotional neediness and a stubborn refusal to allow anyone to meet it; instead choosing to meet one's own needs. The need for hoard items that
are trash shows that one has condemned self and feels worthless; the need to shop for new items shows that one feels the need to be rewarded.
See also addiction,
avoidance,
denial,
insolence,
isolation,
manipulation,
pathological lying,
silent rebellion
Represent our ability to regulate our emotional reactions to challenging life experiences Imbalance - Unable or unwilling to adapt to changes that are seemingly out of our control
Persistent family pattern of withholding critical pieces of information from those asking questions. Desire for the question-asker to "suffer as I have suffered". Subtle form of torture
that aims to keep the asker under control. See
greed, lying,
revenge, spite Sounds like: "If you don't know, I'm not going to be the one tell you." How to change the pattern: If someone asks a question, tell the truth. Resist the urge to hold back certain details
Compulsive need to receive focused, sympathetic attention from an authority figure. Wanting to steal attention from others (see
envy),
avoid responsibilities, or chronic need to be in crisis. Fear of retribution (from God) for every mistake that one has ever made; or
fear that one is not living up to her or his life purpose and so will be punished; or fear that one has no value and no right to be alive, or at least should be suffering.
Worry, worry, worry. See also Munchausen's Belief that one has (or may develop) a terminal disease - Obsessive thoughts that every twitch, itch, bump, lump or pain is a symptom of
a deadly disorder. Belief that every warning about foods, substances, diseases, etc. applies to self. Belief that if one's associate(s) develop a disease, "it's only a matter of time until I will get it too". See
fear of death/dying, fear of invasion
When given the opportunity to do something helpful or productive, we often use the old excuses of: I don’t feel like it, or I can’t because I’m too tired.
What we’re really saying is, “No”. It’s all about power and control, and doing as we’ve been asked can be seen as a sign of
weakness. Saying “I’m too tired” is the polite way of keeping control and feeling strong. The challenge is to do as we’ve been
asked, even though we may not want to. Instead of telling ourselves that we’re already doing enough, make that extra effort. Be prepared to work though, because once we get started, our mindset usually changes
and enthusiasm sets in
Represents our ability to protect self Autoimmune disease - Holding self to excessively high standards, but wondering why since no one really cares Autoimmune disorders
- Our immune system becomes out of control due to not knowing whether to expect cruelty or kindness from those around us, and over-compensates with self-protection - just in case Compromised - Chronic fear
of being assaulted, whether verbally, emotionally or physically Cytomegalovirus - Feeling like a victim of one's own caring and concern
Observing our loved ones and authority figures treating others cruelly / unkindly and
fearing that it is only a matter of time until they treat us with the same unkindness
Complex disorder
caused by a combination of several physical and spiritual conditions.
However, the root spiritual cause can be traced to a desire (whether
recognized or not) to withhold pleasure, either from self or from one's
partner. See
spite
Occurs if we
feel that our desires are constantly being denied and will never be
met. Sounds like, "I never get what I want" or "when is it going to be my turn?"
Can result from
any of the following: Congenital
adrenal hyperplasia - Results from parent(s)' inability
or unwillingness to provide the child with the spiritual necessities
of life (unconditional
love,
compassion, emotional support, etc.) Delayed ejaculation
- Self-condemnation to the point of denying self the pleasure of fulfillment.
Often carries over into other areas of one's life besides sex/reproduction Endometriosis - Needing to
control every little thing, or overly dependent on our mate (co-dependent
relationship), or holding onto a core belief system that is narrow-minded
or out-dated Fallopian tube
issues - Feeling that one's progress in life is being blocked
by unseen forces, often called "bad luck" Genetic abnormalities
- Conditions arising from a parent's unresolved traumatic life events Low sperm count- Unrecognized and/or unresolved
anger with one's father Prolactinoma
- Desperate for loving attention yet knowing it is unlikely to be provided Secondary infertility
-
Fear of seeming to be greedy Semen allergy
- Unrecognized or unresolved issue with one's mate Weight issues
- Lack of spiritual stability (see
anorexia,
bulimia,
obesity)
Represent our ability to know right from wrong Kidney problems - Unable or unwilling to hear the truth or discern truth. Can come from having had
dishonest caregiver(s) or authority figure(s). Always being treated like a child and so escaping responsibility Kidney/renal failure when caused by: Impaired blood flow to the kidneys: habitually throwing a spiritual
temper tantrum whenever an obstacle is met; Urinary obstructions: habitual anger that has become seething hatred
toward just about everyone and everything; Direct damage to the kidneys: occurs as a result of a recent (within
the previous 1-5 days) childish, petulant, mean-spirited decision
made purely to be hurtful to self or others
Represent our
ability to cope with learning that things are not as we believe or hope
they are Arthritis -
Distrust in our ability to recover from defeat or loss. Habitually
living in
victim mode, always fearing the next offense. See
knee problems,
fear of invasion Baker's Cyst - Trying
to protect self from a crippling blow to our self-esteem Bursitis - Angry about feeling unprotected Knee problems -
Fear of being attacked from behind, or by an unknown, unseen enemy.
Fear of becoming a
victim and being brought to our knees. Can also be
distrust,
arrogance and/or
ego. See
fear of invasion
A deep desire to receive attention that one knows would be excessive.
Angry with someone who over- or under-nurtures and afraid to ask them
to change for
fear of abandonment
Can be a physical manifestation of intolerance of femininity or
of displaying emotions
Unrecognized
or unresolved fears or regrets over being female Inflammatory
- Regrets over one's sexual activity. After delivery, regrets over our
behaviour during the birthing process, or the results thereof Parasitic - Wanting
desperately to be as desirable as someone else seems to be Physiologic
-
Fear that being female will present certain dangers or will prevent
certain life choices from being available
Represent how we express
ourselves without words Biting - If accidentally,
biting back words that, if spoken aloud, could cause trouble. If on
purpose, wanting to show how badly we want to get it right Chapped or burning
- Burning to express negative thoughts, attitudes or emotions Cold sores - See
Herpes Cracked - Unable/unwilling
to allow others the dignity of making mistakes Dry - Unable to satisfy our
thirst for something that we know is better left untouched. Feeling
deprived Pouting - Feeling sorry
for self and wanting the world to know that we have been offended Pursed - Keeping our
judgmental,
critical,
condemning thoughts to self but hoping someone will notice our displeasure
anyway
Represents our
ability to express or process strong emotions Liver diseases
Anger,
envy,
jealousy, and/or
revenge just sitting there, not being acknowledged or dealt with
in any way Cirrhosis
- Stubborn refusal to see the good - in self, in others, in the world.
"What's the point?" Hepatitis
- Tendency to
blame anyone or anything but self for our problems. Failure to accept
responsibility for our shortcomings. Extremely difficult to please (see
criticism,
perfectionism) Jaundice -
Bitter attitude toward life; nasty temperament; unkind. See
birth defects Non-alcoholic
fatty liver disease - Easily offended and unable or unwilling
to let go of the resulting
anger that can easily turn into
resentment and the desire for
revenge
Represent whether
we feel free to make choices, express our thoughts and live life as
we would like Asthma - Stifling emotional
environment. Habitually responding to the unknown with confusion, agitation,
anxiety,
fear, panic,
distrust. Can be a way to control a tense family situation Bronchitis - Feeling
forced into being the responsible one, and very
angry about it. Feeling under-appreciated Cancer - If the individual
smokes, look for the real reason he/she started smoking. If the individual
has never smoked, look for a “smothering” attitude (could be smothering
the truth, could be smothering a loved one, could be being smothered
by a loved one, etc.). Is the individual in a
co-dependent relationship? Collapsed - Belief that
one has just suffered an attack from a completely unexpected, and yet
fully trusted, source Cystic Fibrosis - Stifling, explosive spiritual environment
in the home and wanting to put out the fire Pleurisy - Reacting to a recent life lesson by rejecting
or resisting it. If the lesson can be accepted and absorbed, full healing
is possible. If it is not, one may develop a pattern of reacting to
future life lessons in the same way, with the resulting pleurisy
becoming
chronic Pneumonia - Extreme disappointment that an important
opportunity has been missed, or extreme
fear that one has just made a very large mistake Tuberculosis - Belief that one is weak. Feeling at
the mercy of those who are strong and in a position of power. Giving
up on our ability to survive. See
AIDS / HIV Whooping cough - HEAR ME!
to give ourselves the upper hand in a given situation
to attempt to hide from or escape consequences
to appear benevolent
fear of losing the approval of one who seems to be in control
of a situation
We tell little white lies, sometimes to protect ourselves, but usually
to spare someone’s feelings:
“No problem!” (even if there is a problem)
“Good job!” (even though it may not be satisfactory)
“You look great!” (even if the person actually does not)
There are as many reasons for lying as there are people. Here are just
a few though: low self-esteem, extreme
guilt or
shame over a traumatic experience,
victim of chronic abuse, whether physical, sexual, emotional or
verbal
Chronic - Making up stories
in an attempt to hide or escape, or to appear benevolent Pathological - Purposely
weaving a web of lies around a kernel of truth to keep everyone wondering
and guessing, so that one ALWAYS remains in control and at top-of-mind.
When taken to the utter extreme, can become
Pseudo Munchausen's Syndrome by Proxy
Intense fear that
one will be hurt by some unseen force for some unknown reason,
possibly as the result of a
curse that someone wished on us (see
fear of retribution)
We all know
the pattern: We've just told our friend about our latest project. Friend
says, "Oh, I've been going to do that for a long time." And then it
starts. They go on and on, telling us all about why they haven't done
it yet, or why they think it’s a great or horrible idea, or what happened
when their friend did it. They ask us no questions and show no interest
in what we’ve said, and they may even go on to completely change the
subject. This is a common pattern in people who have a
fear of being left out or forgotten. They simply cannot cope with
not being the centre of attention, and they cannot still their thoughts
long enough to pay attention to others. What can we do about it?
While we cannot make anyone else change - or even want to change - we
can best help them, and ourselves, by expressing our feelings about
what they’ve done. See
narcissism
Belief that our emotional needs are being neglected, and
fear that the situation will never improve German (Rubella) - Wanting to prevent taking the next step alone.
Fear of abandonment,
fear of the unknown Red (Rubeola) - Wanting to permanently delay taking the next step of development.
Fear of the unknown
Alzheimer’s - Chronic self-deception.
Habitual
denial of having played any role in our own negative experiences;
hence a chronic need to
blame. Strong desire to make everyone believe that we have had no
negative experiences in life, in other words, wanting to live in a
fairy tale Forgetfulness
- Often used as an excuse for obsessive / compulsive
checking and rechecking. This is not forgetfulness - it is avoidance
of being in the moment. Habitually using forgetfulness as an excuse
can contribute to the onset of
Alzheimer's. Can also be a means of bringing extra attention to
self, as a way of saying, "You're not important enough for me
to bother remembering anything about you" or as a way to cover
up one's mistakes or shortcomings Remembering everything
- Constantly reminding self of events, losses, experiences, victories,
or hurts in case they're needed to gain the upper hand in arguments (see
guilt trips), or to give one a sense of superiority Unable to forget
- Often triggered by traumatic events
Major physical
life change that can create challenges to one's sense of self. Can show
us how well or how poorly we adapt to change. Can help us better understand
the challenges that face adolescents as they experience puberty (see
compassion). Like the
flu and the
monthly cycle, menopause is often used as an excuse when one needs
a rest and yet is unable or unwilling to speak up for self. It is also
used as an excuse to under-perform or to be "bitchy". Those who have
severe problems with menopause may have a
victim
or
martyr
mentality. Pain or discomfort can be reduced, or even completely eliminated,
by just saying "No"
It is important
to remember that, like behaviours, thought patterns can be modified Bi-polar disorder
- Seemingly never-ending cycle of extreme self-approval and extreme
self-hatred - usually in direct response to another's words or actions
that have been taken as either a reward or a personal attack. Shows
an inability to accept self as just a soul in human form. Depressivephase: I give up. I'm useless and horrible and everybody hates
me. I'm not perfect and everyone sees it - I can't bear the
shame. The spiritual component of this sort of thinking can be the
belief that "God must hate me". Manicphase
- I can do anything and everything. The rules don't apply to me (arrogance).
The spiritual component of this sort of thinking can be the idea that
"I don't care what God - or anyone else - thinks" Borderline
Personality Disorder - Profound sense that one was, is, and
always will be, a failure. Belief that one is incapable of 'correct'
thought or action. Often comes as a result of a child having every choice
controlled by others or of having no one to provide guidance, in other
words, no experience of what it's like to make correct and/or incorrect
decisions in a safe learning environment. This can result in a nearly
complete lack of self-trust,
along with anger at the imposed
control
of others and
fear of having that control removed (fear
of abandonment) Chronic
confusion - Can be caused by constant repetition of negative
thoughts, or by believing the constant
criticism
from one's caregivers/loved ones. Too many people to please Depression
- Complex behaviour based in our thoughts, attitudes and
emotions. Futile, impotent
anger, and
guilt for feeling it. Belief that things will never get better.
The depressive state is not constant, being more like waves on the ocean, i.e., just as one is recovering
from a bout, a new experience can trigger another episode. Depression
can become a reflex reaction to a specific experience, e.g.,
making a mistake, whether anyone else knows about it or not, disappointing
someone, someone saying "no" to us, or feeling that we may have lost
someone's approval. Depression often triggers other negative behaviours
like withholding communication or going on a drinking /eating /shopping
binge, etc. Until the root cause has been recognized
and dealt with, the condition can only be managed. Depression
- postpartum -
Fear of losing one's identity, fear that one might be overshadowed
by the child. In its extreme, can become
Munchausen's Syndrome by Proxy
Multiple personality disorder - What it is not: It is
not other souls inhabiting one's mind or body. What it is:
Behaviour done out of a profound need to protect self from the
actions and/or opinions of others
Fear of revealing one's true nature, and protecting self by hiding
within various acting roles
Desire to "keep them guessing"
The benefits are multiple: Gives one a sense of always being in
control, because since only "I" know the secret, others can never be
sure with whom they're dealing. If someone expresses displeasure
with the individual, she or he can tell themselves that it doesn't
really matter because 'it wasn't really me' that they've
condemned Spiritual effects of the pattern: Gradual loss of
desire or ability to recall one's true self, unwillingness to
confront the truth about one's motives, unstable self-esteem Physical effects of the pattern:
ADD / ADHD,
pathological
lying How to change the pattern:
Meditate to learn the
initial reasons for choosing the behaviour Narcissism
- Deep desire for or belief that everyone is watching Me, plotting against
Me, or thinking about Me, and everything that happens is about Me. Belief
that Me is always correct, and anyone who disagrees is a threat to be
destroyed, shouted down or publicly ridiculed. Belief that it's not
enough to win - everyone else has to lose. Chronic refusal to give others
a chance to express their thoughts and feelings. Usually the pattern
leads to isolation, as very few people want to be around someone who
is unwilling to listen, share the spotlight or give credit to another;
however, if the narcissist happens to hold a position of power or authority,
many are only too eager to forego their personal needs and sell out
in favour of promoting self. See
self-importance Passive/aggressive
disorder- Unable or unwilling to stand up for self but
resenting others' supposed lack of
respect. Constant grumbling, griping and whining but unwilling to
take responsibility for one's role in any negative situation (victim).
Symptoms: withholding communication (see
abandonment), extremely slow to act or react, to speak, to move,
to offer assistance (see
dawdling);
chronic
lateness (fear
of commitment); chronic
procrastination (avoidance),
compulsive
lying. The pattern can manifest in physical as
accident proneness,
addictions,
dental problems,
headaches (or migraines) Aggressive/passive
behaviour - Obnoxious behaviour designed to force others
into submission. The aggressive phase can manifest as shouting orders,
criticisms or
guilt trips, throwing temper tantrums, threatening physical or financial
assault, or
abandonment. When the victim submits and becomes docile, the offender
then shows mercy by showering the victim with affection, warmth and
praise, giving gifts or rewards and generally being sweet and attentive
(passive phase)…until the next time. This childish, abusive behaviour
results from growing up in an extremely controlled household or an environment
with no boundaries. The passive phase lures the victim into a false
sense of security, and can even create a guilty feeling for having ever
doubted the aggressor. The disorder can manifest in physical as high
blood pressure, poor
dental health (can result in total tooth loss),
laziness or
hoarding. It can manifest in spiritual as chronic
lying,
greed,
self-righteousness,
distrust. If this behaviour is an issue for you, either as aggressor
or as victim, visit
Section 2 of this website to begin your inner child revolution Intermittent
explosive disorder - Behaviour that one feels fully justified
in maintaining. Used as a means of keeping
control in any situation where one might lose the war. See aggressive
/ passive behaviour above)
Like the
flu and
menopause, this is often used as an excuse to under-perform or to
be bitchy. The cycle can be a guaranteed week or two every month when
one can
blame one's body instead of admitting that one has needs. Those
who have (or who say they have) painful cycles can have a
victim mentality. The pain can often be reduced (or even eliminated)
by simply not allowing self to use it as an excuse to escape responsibilities.
See
endometriosis,
uterine fibroids Positive - Recognition of one's limitations. Can signify
the start of a new cycle, a new way of life, or a new opportunity Negative - Fighting any change suggested by others
every step of the way. Refusing to go with the flow. Argumentative
Deep need to
be
perfect - not so much to be a better person, but rather to make
someone else see how hard one is trying to win that someone’s approval.
Feeling overburdened and hopeless that the burden will ever be lifted,
but unwilling to do anything to change it (see
martyrdom)
Can affect anyone
- male or female, adult or child. Complete failure to recognize that
others have needs and feelings too.
Martyr. Constant need for sympathetic attention.
Self-importance,
jealousy. Can cause a spouse to kill one's pregnant mate or a child
to kill her or his sibling or pet
This condition often appears in
pathological liars. They make up lies about their loved ones, sometimes
claiming that one of them has been hospitalized or even died. Why? To
play on people's gullibility and sympathy, in the hopes of being excused
from obligations and responsibilities, because after all, they have
to attend a FUNERAL!
See also
Pain Cramp, charley horse -
Signal that one is having or just had a negative thought, attitude or
emotion. If caused by an injury, check out
condemnation,
guilt,
victim Spasm - Indecision about whether
to hold on or let go of the issue at hand, seeing that both options
present danger and unsure which is the safer choice Twitches or Tics
- Need to get going or need to stay still. If unable to get going (for
example unable to start a project), can be due to
fear of failure or success, exerting
control because of a desire to withhold action (see
passive/aggressive). If unable to stay still, can be due to a belief
that one MUST always be doing something productive, or else!
Holding faulty
belief system(s) that prevents growth, forward motion and/or fluid movement.
Inability to follow through on decisions and condemning self for it.
Can result from extreme over- or under-protective parenting
Fingernails represent our thoughts
about our work Toenails represent our thoughts
about how we're walking our path Biting -
Distress; hungry for positive attention and/or approval from loved
ones Breaking - An act or
role that is disintegrating, and not knowing what to do about it. Often
happens when we make positive changes and our loved ones freak
out. (Nothing has to be done. It's not up to the person making the changes
to fix the people who aren't willing to change) Bruised -
Fear that a recent action or choice is being or will be harshly
judged Lifting -
Fear that one's flaws will be revealed for everyone to see Hangnails -
Fear that one is not doing what really needs to be done Ridges (horizontal) -
A traumatic event was dismissed as being unimportant Split - Reminder that an
inner issue needs to be resolved
Living in a
state of
hypervigilance along with a nearly constant need to receive assurance
from an authority figure that everything is ok. Can be a chronic need
for loving or sympathetic attention, along with an inability or unwillingness
to give it to others. The following symptoms may occur:
Sleep apnea
- Needing everyone's approval and so feeling indispensable (martyr,
victim). Always running, never feeling that one has enough time.
Can be an extremely smothering, self- absorbed,
self-important, or self-serving attitude
Excessive daytime sleepiness - Wishing everyone would - for once
- pay attention to us and, failing that, that they would just go away
and leave us alone. Form of
abandonment
Hallucinations
- Hypnagogic (while falling asleep) - Belief that one's
deepest, darkest fears will manifest upon falling asleep
Hallucinations - Hypnopompic (upon waking) -
Fear that one's worst fear(s) will be realized - today
Restless Legs Syndrome - Wanting to kick someone or something.
Anger. Knowing that one must get moving, but resisting
Sleep paralysis -
Fear of losing control to an unknown and unknowable threat;
fear of being held prisoner
Sudden loss of muscle tone (cataplexy) - Can occur if one habitually
suppresses expression of strong emotions
Represents
how we feel about our outlook on life and how we deal with
viewpoints that disagree with ours. Cervical spondylosis
Overcompensating for a lack of belief in self Congenital
muscular torticollis (Wry neck) Reflects the parents' inability
or unwillingness to agree on a fundamental belief system about the purpose
of life Pain Trying to avoid looking
at a painful truth. Is someone close by, a pain in the neck? Spasmodic torticollis
(Cervical dystonia) Unstable belief system(s) about self and one's place
in the Universe Whiplash (when caused
by motor vehicle accident) Occurs after learning that a loved one holds
a shocking belief system with which one heartily disagrees
If in the
jaw, unable or unwilling to stop complaining. If in
the hip or leg, unable or unwilling
to let go of the past and move forward. If in the knee,
unable or unwilling to
trust. If in the shoulder or arm,
unable or unwilling to take responsibility (see also
osteonecrosis,
victim)
Chronic desire to prove
everyone, especially the experts, wrong. Disagreeing with everyone and
everything. Unable to admire the good work of others.
Uncooperative. See also
control,
spite
Represents tolerance/intolerance
of self (see also
sinus cavities) Anosmia - Congenital
- Family pattern of withholding crucial information about the emotional
/ spiritual status of its members from certain of its members Anosmia - Temporary
- Unable or unwilling to label one's current emotional / spiritual reaction
to a specific issue or life experience Bleeding -
Worry, worry, worry... If at a funeral, unrecognized worry about
the death or the consequences of it Deviated septum
- If from birth, born into a family that stifles creativity
and prefers that children do as they are told and expected to do, rather
than what they might prefer to do. For example, "You should be a lawyer
- not an actress." If caused by trauma, deep sadness
over a recent choice - wishing that one had taken the other option instead Hyposmia - Unable or
unwilling to identify one's emotional / spiritual condition accurately
or honestly Out-of-joint -
Anger. Easily offended Overly sensitive
to smells - Tendency to be
judgmental/critical
either of self or others Post-nasal drip
- Crying silently so that nobody can see or hear it, but hoping that
someone will notice and offer sympathy Red -
Repressed or
suppressed emotions. When the nose is also bulbous, it can indicate
habitual inability to process strong emotions like fear and anger (see
addiction or
non-alcoholic fatty liver disease) Sensitive to temperature
- Signal of unrecognized or unresolved regrets Snoring - Feeling like
a
victim, tendency to be
passive/aggressive
Usually unrecognized
cries for help in dealing with difficult situations, usually at home
and usually beginning in childhood. Doing a behaviour is often preferable
to expressing one's dissatisfaction - anyone who has dared to challenge
a parent-in-denial knows this. The feeling of impotence can literally
drive a person to drink or other substances or to do repetitive behaviours.
Can also arise after traumatic life events ("walking wounded"). See
addiction,
obsessive/compulsive behaviours
Difficulty
in processing rapid change;
impatient to see what's coming next. Looking everywhere for
guidance as to what kind of person to be, but not knowing whose
opinion to
trust, or after whom to model self
Stubbornly holding
onto inaccurate belief systems and not wanting any argument about them,
even though gaining truth would change one’s life for the better. Finding
/ understanding the spiritual cause and releasing the faulty belief
system(s) can re-enable blood flow to affected area. See
blame,
victim Hip - Intense belief that one cannot move forward because
“they” can’t manage without me Jaw - Intense belief that others are not living up
to their responsibilities - that self is beyond reproach and has done
nothing whatsoever to create one's current difficulties Knee - Intense belief that one is vulnerable to the
whims of others. Stifling one's own power Shoulder - Unwilling to take responsibility due to
intense belief that they won’t let go ~ or unwilling to release
responsibility due to intense belief that they won’t share
the load
A cherished
belief system has been found to be untrue and a positive replacement
seems impossible to find (can be a loss of one's faith in a loving God).
Can be a crumbling spiritual infrastructure, fragile or unsound belief
system(s) or fragile spiritual health
The Universal
Intelligence teaches that physical pain exists as a way to let us know
that we are in emotional or spiritual pain, and that we have unrecognized
/ unresolved issues. For some, feeling physical pain is the only way
to express emotional needs (see
self-mutilation,
accident proneness). Which part of the body has the pain? The affected
area is an important part of the message Addiction to pain
- Emotional burdens create physical pain, and unwillingness to let go
of emotional pain can become a habitual choice Dull ache - Holding
onto false belief systems. Longing to be comforted. Unresolved emotional/spiritual
pain. Sorrow Sharp, stabbing
- Signal that one just had a negative thought, attitude or emotion,
e.g.,
anger,
envy,
judgment Stiffness - Rigid thinking Abdomen -
Distress Arms - Unable or unwilling
to carry the load Back - see
Skeleton. Upper -
Fear of invasion or of what the future holds,
distrust. Middle - Inability to solve a current problem; feeling
like a
victim,
distress. Lower -
Fear of abandonment; chronic
avoidance of dealing with painful issues. Living a lie Breasts - Aching to be
nurtured.
Fear of being alone and having to fend for oneself. Trouble brewing
within one's family Face - Wanting to hide from
something Feet - Walking one's path
with unresolved spiritual issues Hands - Working too hard
for the wrong reasons Head - Wanting to
avoid someone or something Hips - Trying to bring something
into the future that might be better left in the past. Fear of leaving
someone or something behind Knees - Hating what one
is doing. Too much pressure to perform. Tired of always doing the same
old thing Legs - Not living up to one's
potential Neck - Is someone or something
a pain in the neck? Trying to avoid looking at a painful truth Shoulders - Chip on
the shoulder. Needing to be in
control of everything. Feeling put-upon. Feeling that one is indispensable Frozen shoulder
- Wishing that someone would share the chores, except they would probably
do it all wrong Torn rotator
cuff- Always wanting more but having no control over getting
it Stomach -
Distress Teeth - Unrecognized hurt
feelings or hurtful thoughts
Chronic, paralyzing
need to either be in
control of, or not responsible for, everything and everyone (what
they’re doing, thinking, feeling and believing). Trying to keep an eye
on everything and everyone to ensure that nothing goes wrong.
Judgment,
criticism,
fear,
perfectionism
Any or all of
the following: Unable and/or unwilling to let go of hurts. Needing approval
from an authority figure who withholds it. Living life without a routine
or schedule, and using it as an excuse to escape responsibility
Bladder (Anterior
prolapse or cystocele) - Not knowing when to hold onto or when to let
go of emotional baggage and unable to stop thinking about it all Bowel (Posterior
prolapse or rectocele) - Not knowing whether or when to give or withhold
affection, attention, approval Uterus
- Unable to release pain and anguish over the loss of one's position
or status Vagina
- Unresolved issue(s) over what one has produced or not produced
Reacting to
a recent life lesson by rejecting or resisting it. If the lesson can
be accepted and absorbed, full healing is possible. If it is not, one
may develop a pattern of reacting to future life lessons in the same
way resulting in chronic pleurisy
One parent fails
to meet the other's needs, whether they have been voiced aloud or not.
The ensuing despair, frustration and/or rage affect the developing fetus
and the child is born with this condition. He or she is left trying
to resolve the parent's anguish
Very strong,
painful signal to let us know that we're finding it difficult to understand
why others don't just do what we're doing, when it's so clear, to us
anyway, that it's the right thing to do. See
judgment,
criticism,
condemnation,
control,
self-righteousness Sounds like: What don't they just...? Can't they see
that...? How to change the pattern:
Meditate to learn that we are all just souls in human form, at varying
stages of development, sometimes doing well, sometimes doing poorly
Represents our
sense of responsibility over what we put out into the world, i.e., that
which we create Cancer - Refusal to
accept responsibility for the negativity in one’s life (blame,
victim) Inflamed - Denying
to everyone (including self) that one has any strong emotions, yet still
feeling them and being affected by them
Exaggerated
wound-healing. Over-reacting to a perceived threat Erythrodermic
- Belief that one is at imminent risk of attack, but not realizing that
the threat comes from within self Guttate - Belief
that any information that comes from self is invalid or untrue and will
be ridiculed, so why say anything at all? Inverse - Hiding
from the ugly thought that one is unloved and unlovable Nail - Belief that one
is incapable and unworthy of protecting self from the many hidden dangers
that exist when in a relationship Pustular - Belief
that one's life choices and work are at imminent risk of being harshly
criticized and/or condemned Psoriatic Arthritis - Habitually alternating periods
of self-condemnation
with self-indulgence. The pattern stems from one's caregiver(s) having
been alternatingly, and unpredictably, too harsh/too loving. One's immune
system becomes out of control as a result of not knowing whether to
expect cruelty or kindness from those around us, and overcompensates
with self-protection just in case it's cruelty Scalp psoriasis
- Extreme concern that one is in imminent danger
Stubborn refusal
to budge - on anything - ever - unless there is absolutely no other
option than to concede. Chronic need to be in charge. Viciously
critical and quick to
condemn. Unwilling to
forgive others yet desperate to have everyone's approval. Expecting
that everyone will just go along with us because they know we will make
life miserable for them if they don't
Holding onto
old emotional injuries; always retelling the same old unhappy story.
Fear of contamination Cell phone overuse
- Is the phone or device being used to avoid talking with the person
or people at hand? Does using it give us a sense of
importance or superiority?
Failure of our
caregivers / loved ones to acknowledge our pain after an injury, and
failure to allow us time to heal. They expect that we will just pick
right up as if nothing had happened, showing a complete lack of sympathy
or
compassion. We're left feeling uncared for, unloved or even invisible,
which inevitably leads to feelings of unworthiness, deep sorrow and
a need to medicate the pain
Negative ideas
that creep in and take hold Jock itch - Placing
excessive stress on self to perform well in spite of restrictions Of the body -
Feeling that one was an unsuspecting target of someone we thought was
an ally Of the scalp
- Unable or unwilling to acknowledge that we have the same issue(s)
as someone close to us
Fear of the next unsuspected attack from a loved one and wanting
to avoid it, yet not wanting the loved one to know that we're afraid
of them and their power
Difficulty in
accepting that one is in a physical body. The soul may have left the
previous life experience in a traumatic way, or this may be the soul's
first incarnation in human form
Unwanted reactions
to the things that are supposed to help us be healthy can arise as a
result of our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, belief systems and desires
about any or all of the following:
That which has been prescribed or given as treatment
The person who gave us the prescription or treatment
Our desire to stay sick or to get better
Our beliefs about our ability to heal
Our beliefs about whether we can be helped
Our desire or lack thereof to be cooperative
How to change the pattern: Recognize which of the above
issues applies and meditate to find the root cause
Represent ability
to go with the flow Allergic fungal sinusitis
- Unable or unwilling to acknowledge to others that we have suffered
an incredibly painful experience, and there are reminders of it everywhere,
making us feel it will be impossible to forget Chronic congestion
- Constantly self-monitoring EVERYTHING one says or does, to avoid being
surprised if someone criticizes our words or deeds. It's a way of maintaining
control over our fear of losing the approval of others Sinusitis - Chronic fear that
one is broken and needs to be fixed, or that one will soon be caught
and punished for one's mistakes
Represents our
spiritual infrastructure (see
arthritis,
cancer) Breaks - Habitually
thinking, “Give me a break” (victim,
judgment,
criticism,
condemnation). Time for a break with the old days or the old ways
but not wanting to let go of the past Osteoporosis - A cherished belief system has been
found to be untrue and a positive replacement seems impossible to find
(can be a loss of one's faith in a loving God). Can also be a crumbling
spiritual infrastructure, fragile or unsound belief system(s) or fragile
spiritual health Spinal column
- The spinal column transmits, throughout the body, the vibrational
frequency of each our thoughts, attitudes and emotions. Physical vertebral
damage occurs, whether spontaneously or through accident or illness,
when the individual’s specific tolerance threshold has been breached.
Spiritual component of issues that can occur with each vertebra: Cervical (neck): C1 Incongruous belief
systems. In other words, belief systems that disagree with one another;
for example, believing that one's caregiver(s) is or was a saint, yet
knowing that she or he really wasn't C2
Avoiding communication C3 Stifling
or smothering someone or something, or feeling stifled or smothered
by someone or something C4 Feeling
unsupported C5 Unable or unwilling
to do that which needs to be done C6
Unable or unwilling to grasp an important concept C7 Trying to
control everyone and everything C8
Unable or unwilling to meet commitments Thoracic (upper back): T1
Angry about life's obstacles and challenges T2 Unable or unwilling to be held responsible
T3 Unable or unwilling to reach out
for help or to help T4 Feeling betrayed
T5 Feeling trapped T6 Feeling vulnerable T7 Feeling powerless
T8 Feeling that there's not enough time for everything
T9 Feeling unfulfilled T10 Feeling unloved and so seeking everyone's
approval T11 Feeling unproductive
or
fearing becoming useless T12
Feeling bankrupt or
fearing bankruptcy (of wallet or of spirit) Lumbar (middle back): L1
Fear of leaving someone or something behind L2 Unable or unwilling to live in the moment
L3 Covering up traumatic experiences
L4 Feeling or
fearing that one is failing in life L5
Trying to hurry through life Sacral (lower back): S1 Trying to
hold onto everything, unable or unwilling to let go S2
Fear of abandonmentS3
Fear of the unknownS4
DistrustS5 Withholding approval Coccyx (tailbone): Co1 Belief that
one is not worthy of respect, or of being treated with kindness or consideration
Genetics - Family pattern of seeming to be a completely
different person when out in public compared to at home
Impetigo -
Observing our loved ones and authority figures treating others cruelly
/ unkindly and fearing that it is only a matter of time until they treat
us with the same unkindness Itching - On
the feet: Itching to get moving. On the hands: itching to get to work.
On the abdomen:
anxiety. On the head:
worry Keratosis pilaris
- Trying to protect self from the onslaught of our family's emotional
turmoil, fearing that it will eventually explode and consume all that
is good in life Moles - Withholding
communication. Wanting everyone to read our mind so we won't have to
say anything negative Perinasal Dermatitis
-
Scornful attitude toward our authority figures at home or in the
workplace Periocular
Dermatitis - Holding onto negative thoughts about experiences
that we feel could have been handled better - constantly replaying them
and constantly feeling irritated and frustrated that the past cannot
be changed Perioral Dermatitis
- Belief that one's words will be
judged,
criticised and
condemned by others, so withholding communication out of
spite but also to protect self Pityriasis rosea
- Wishing to be pitied for all the pain one has experienced; wanting
to cover self in a protective blanket to prevent against further offenses Poison ivy
- Occurs within 2 or 3 days after having interfered (even with the best
of intentions) where we ought not to have. Recognition of the impact
of our actions can reduce the severity of the symptoms Psoriasis
- Exaggerated wound-healing. Over-reacting to a perceived threat.
Read more Rash - Adverse
reaction to the intervention that was supposed to help the problem,
so that the problem is solved but a new one is created - a vicious cycle
that one feels powerless to change. The solution? Find the root cause
of the original issue and resolve it, thereby removing the need for
the intervention Rosacea - Chronic
need to control others and feeling fully justified in doing so, yet
knowing it's wrong (see
shame) Skin tags
-
Criticism,
self-condemnation over every little thing Vitiligo -
Fear of losing, or of not finding, one's identity and role in life.
Look to the affected area for the specific message Warts - Belief
that one is unworthy. If on the Hands -
Fear that our work is bad or useless. If on the Genitals -
Belief that sex is
shameful or that our sexual behaviour or history is shameful
Represents self-acceptance Sleep disorders Sleep apnea -
Needing everyone's approval and so feeling indispensable (martyr,
victim). Always running, never feeling that one has enough
time. Can be an extremely smothering attitude. Can also be a
self-absorbed,
self-important or self-serving attitude Bedwetting
- Chronic
fear that an authority figure will hold us responsible for all that
is wrong or has gone wrong Insomnia -
Trying to
avoid thinking about something or trying to remember everything
(anxiety,
fear,
worry). Fear that something important will be forgotten Klein-Levin
Syndrome - Wanting to escape into a fairy tale (abandonment) Narcolepsy - Living in a state of hyper-vigilance
and a nearly constant need to receive assurance from an authority figure that everything is ok. Chronic need for loving or sympathetic attention, along with an inability or unwillingness to give it to others. May occur with any/all of the following symptoms:
Excessive daytime sleepiness - Wishing everyone would - just for once -
pay attention to us and, failing that, that they would just go away and leave us alone. Form of abandonment
Hallucinations - Hypnagogic (while falling
asleep) - Belief that one's deepest, darkest fears will manifest
upon falling asleep
We tend to have
a favourite sleeping position and after all, we need to sleep in one
position or another. So it's not that there's a problem with any of
the sleeping positions. Rather, if we suddenly feel the need to change
from our normal position, that need was triggered by a recent significant
event. It is the event that needs to be identified and our feelings
about it acknowledged and resolved. These position descriptions are
meant to help with identification:
Climbing a ladder - Trying to escape reality or always
trying to improve self (never feeling quite good enough)
This is a signal
from our spiritual companion guide to pay attention to our thoughts
about what's happening RIGHT NOW. While it may not seem important at
the moment, the information will come into play in the near future
Physical expression
of our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, belief systems and desires. Some
of the speech patterns below have become quite common, but since we
seldom hear what we ourselves are saying, or how we’re saying it, we
may not realize that we’re sabotaging ourselves Babbling - Deep need
to be in the limelight. Chronic
fear that if given the opportunity, someone else might say what
we are trying to avoid hearing (guilt,
shame). Chatter can be used as a defense against a perceived challenge.
Can be a need to
gossip. Unable or unwilling to express emotions. Can be a lack of
concern or interest in others (see
arrogance,
narcissism,
self-importance) Baby talk (in adults)
- Wanting to avoid being taken seriously or held responsible, or can
be used as an excuse to under-perform. Trying to stay in childhood.
Form of
control and
manipulation Close talker -
Sharing special information or secrets to make others feel that they’re
our only trusted confidant, and that we have a special bond. The recipient
then feels, possibly mistakenly, that they have a trusted friend who
would never cause harm. Can be the foundation of unhealthy relationships.
Trying to be in
control.
Anger, aggression,
fear Delayed speech
- Early sign of
co-dependent relationship(s) within a family Falsetto - Although
not a disorder as such, speaking in a high, seemingly happy tone of
voice can belie a deep level of emotional pain or discomfort.
Martyrs often use this tone of voice (see
blame,
guilt trips,
victim) Fast talker -
Guilt,
shame. Wanting to hide.
Fear of being caught and held responsible Hoarse - Reining in one's
voice (can lead to more serious conditions like
strep throat,
bronchitis, etc.). Wanting to withhold communication about something
important for
fear of what might happen Laryngitis -
Withholding communication as a punishment either to self or another.
See
spite Lisp - Trying to sound
non-threatening. Wanting to remain in childhood Loud talker - “LISTEN
TO ME, LOOK AT ME!" Mumbling - Strong desire
to either receive special attention or divert attention from the matter
at hand Nasal - "Please don't
pick on me". Lots of sob stories (blame,
victim), whether spoken aloud or not. May also indicate a
self-righteous attitude Sibilance - “Please
don’t be mean to me” or "Please don't hold me accountable" attitude.
Self-righteous Silent treatment
- Withholding communication as a punishment. Also called
cold shoulder. Childish,
manipulative behaviour designed to punish, hurt or infuriate someone
who has offended us (see
blame,
guilt trips) Slow talker - Note:
this does not apply to those who have sustained, or are recovering
from, brain injuries. Strong desire to hold the attention of one's audience
so as to
control the content or direction of a conversation. Can be a way
to
anger the listener. Can come from low self-esteem or
self-importance, or an inability to think clearly (see
chronic confusion) Smooth talker
- Pretending to be in control of everything yet
fearing being found out to be a fraud Soft talker - Trying
to come across as non-threatening, or a manoeuvre designed to force
one’s audience into silent submission Stuttering -
Guilt,
shame,
self-condemnation Tongue-tie - The
child comes in to the family to illustrate the physical effect of a
strong family pattern of withholding communication as a punishment to
those with whom the family members are displeased Tourette Syndrome
- Desperate need to divert attention from someone or something.
Shame,
embarrassment, Up talking - Can
come from a desire to appear cheerful, positive and non-threatening
(see
martyr). This behaviour can make our audience believe they are being
given a chance to join the conversation, but since no answers are really
wanted, it seldom happens. It can
manipulate the listener into giving her or his approval after every
sentence Whining - Childish way
to let others know that we're unhappy about something. Designed
to get them to pity us and do whatever is needed to make the situation
better - so we won't have to do it ourselves. See
manipulation Notes: 1) Although not a disorder as such, if one emigrates
to a land where a different language is spoken and refuses to learn
that new language,
co-dependent relationships can develop as a result
2) Check out WikiHow's information page that teaches how to
practice speaking well
The brain
is the first place in the human body to react physically to our thoughts,
attitudes and emotions. From there, signals are sent to the nerves in
the spinal column and from there, to the area of the body that is affected
by the particular thought, attitude or emotion that was just experienced.
Vertebral damage occurs when a specific spiritual tolerance threshold
has been breached. See
back,
degenerative disc disease,
skeleton,
vertebra
Emotional and
cognitive inability to process a difficult experience. Feeling strong
emotions about it and bursting to express one's thoughts about it, but
frustrated with self for being unable to describe everything accurately
Often thought
to be an act of sorrow or desperation, suicide is much more complex
than that. Can be a form of
abandonment. Can also be a
sacrifice. It is often committed when one's partner in a co-dependent
relationship breaks free (either through choice or by passing away).
The person really does not see that life is possible without the partner,
or that anyone else will "put up with me". The threat of suicide
can be a form of
control or
spite and
manipulation (if you don't give me what I want, I'll kill myself).
The urge to commit suicide can arise when one suddenly recognizes having
made a huge mistake, and feels it is unforgivable or impossible to repair
the damage done. There are many forms of suicide and some are quicker
than others, but they all have one thing in common: the individual loses
any opportunity to change her or his life experience if the attempt
is successful. Often, there is more to be learned by the individual
from the failure. For example, many become maimed or crippled from a
failed suicide attempt, and the opportunity for profound spiritual advancement
then exists. God sees the Universal Truth of all of the circumstances
that helped to create the suicidal tendency for the individual, and
it is the Universal Intelligence who decides when it is time for an
individual to come home. The individual is never
judged,
criticised or
condemned by God. The individual is simply loved,
unconditionally, by God and each of his messengers
Represent how
we process life's experiences Abscess - Periapical
- Unrecognized negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions over an injury
eating away at one's self-confidence Abscess -
Periodontal - Negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions
over an injury and saying/doing nothing to stand up for oneself Bad breath - Hiding the truth that one believes
to be ugly and wishes were untrue but thinking it doesn't matter what
we believe anyway because no one can read our mind, right? Being hit
in the mouth -
Fear that God is using someone or something to punish us Canker sores
- Biting back poisonous words, even if they're true. To avoid infection
and speed healing, discover or acknowledge the real reason for thinking
them and for not saying them Cavities -
Holding in
judgment,
criticism and
condemnation, but still thinking and believing the thoughts. Withholding
approval. Extremely low self-esteem. Feeling unloved and unappreciated Covering the mouth when
communicating -
Shame or discomfort. If using the lips to cover the teeth while
speaking, can indicate unresolved inner conflicts or fear of being found
out Crooked - Inaccurate
belief systems and no one can or will correct them Crowded - Feeling
trapped, like there's no escape Gaps - Feeling
exposed, like there's nowhere to hide Grinding (bruxism)
-
Anger. Always waiting for the next injury or attack. See
TMJ disorders Gums (bleeding)
-
Worry, worry, worry Gums (receding)
-
Anger over being unable to win the approval of someone who is highly
unlikely to give it. Fear of self-expression Gums (swollen)
- Desperate need to do well enough to win the approval of someone who
is highly unlikely to give it. Self-imposed stress Impacted -
Feeling hopeless Individual teeth
- Possible spiritual component of problems for each tooth in the adult
human mouth. Teeth are numbered 1 through 32, starting with 1 on the
upper right and ending with 32 on the bottom right - counting counter-clockwise.
Approximate age at which the teeth emerge is shown in brackets after
each tooth number, to help to jog the memory about an unresolved negative
experience: Upper (right to left) 01 (19) Lack of encouragement to follow one's heart (third
molar or wisdom tooth)
02 (12)
Fearing the unknown (second molar)
03 (6) Unrecognized trauma occurred that cannot be resolved until it
is acknowledged (first molar)
04 (11) Dreading change (second premolar bicuspid)
05 (10) Feeling invisible and/or useless (first premolar bicuspid)
06 (11) Unexpressed negative thoughts (cuspid [canine])
07 (8) Feeling that self is the only person in the world with a particular
problem (lateral incisor)
08 (7) Self-loathing, blaming self for EVERYTHING (central incisor or
front tooth)
09 (7) (6) Belief that one is hated by all (central incisor or front
tooth)
10 (8) Feeling that self is the only person in the world with a particular
problem (lateral incisor)
11 (11) Unexpressed negative thoughts (cuspid [canine])
12 (10) Feeling invisible and/or useless (first premolar bicuspid)
13 (11) Dreading change (second premolar bicuspid)
14 (6) Unrecognized trauma occurred that cannot be resolved until it
is acknowledged (first molar)
15 (12)
Fearing the unknown (second molar)
16 (19) Lack of encouragement to follow one's heart (third molar or
wisdom tooth) Lower (left to right)
17 (19) Hiding from self (third molar or wisdom tooth)
18 (12) Distrusting self (second molar)
19 (6) Trying to keep secrets (first molar)
20 (11) Unable or unwilling to change self (second pre-molar bicuspid)
21 (10) Stuck in a cycle of pain and blame (first premolar bicuspid)
22 (10) Hiding from others (cuspid [canine])
23 (7) Feeling trapped (lateral incisor)
24 (6) Belief that one is hated by all (central incisor or front tooth)
25 (7) Self-loathing, blaming self for EVERYTHING (central incisor or
front tooth)
26 (7) Feeling trapped (lateral incisor)
27 (10) Hiding from others (cuspid [canine])
28 (10) Stuck in a cycle of pain and blame (first premolar bicuspid)
29 (11) Unable or unwilling to change self (second pre-molar bicuspid)
30 (6) Trying to keep secrets (first molar)
31 (12) Distrusting self (second molar)
32 (19) Hiding from self (third molar or wisdom tooth) Missing or removed
- Can be the result of not dealing with one's issue(s) in a positive
manner. For example, if one feels trapped in life and does nothing to
change the situation, the likelihood of losing a tooth (or teeth) increases
with each passing year, either through accident (breakage), gum disease
or decay. Can also result from not caring for self enough to seek help
when in pain and
distress Overbite (buck
teeth) - Convinced that everyone is right about us being no good. See
shame Pain - Unrecognized
hurt feelings or hurtful thoughts Root canal
(Cracked Tooth Syndrome) - Feeling that one's integrity has been compromised
(self-condemnation) Sensitive
- Tired of trying too hard. Firm belief in one's inability to succeed Sweet tooth
- Craving peace and harmony Underbite
- Wanting to prove that everyone is wrong about us Wisdom tooth
flare-ups -
Judging,
criticising and
condemning self for not honouring one's own needs
Represents our
ability to regulate our emotional state Cancer of the thyroid - Failure to monitor our spoken
words to filter out
judgment,
criticism or
condemnation, believing it's ok to share hurtful information because
we think it's truth and "they" need to hear it Hyperthyroidism
- Grave's disease - Feeling vulnerable (victim)
and over-protecting self Plummer's disease
(goiter) - Trying to win impossible battles Thyroiditis - Feeling
that our power has been lost and not knowing where to turn for help Hypothyroidism
- Hashimoto's thyroiditis - Feeling responsible for everything (self-condemnation).
Can become
arrogance
Displeasure
with our emotional environment but unable or unwilling to do anything
about it. Wanting everyone else to change. Rigid, negative belief system(s).
See
blame,
victim
Skin - Feeling persecuted (see
blame,
victim). Not recognizing our power Stomach (peptic) - Allowing
negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions to eat away at, and destroy,
self
Desperate need
for attention. Living in an emotionally harsh environment where no one
ever speaks of the 'elephant in the living room'. Can manifest as pharyngitis
(sore throat),
bronchitis,
pneumonia,
strep throat or
tonsillitis. A chronically unmet need for simple kindness can lead
to
addictions and even thoughts of
suicide
Physical representation
of our ability to cleanse and release that which is no longer needed
spiritually. See
bladder,
kidneys Frequent urination
- Unable to relax and fully trust that everything is ok Urinary tract
infections (UTI) - Extreme displeasure with the way things
are turning out, and feeling helpless to change any of it
Represent stifled
creativity along with a desire for a life-changing experience Intramural
- Pent-up desire for growth Submucosal
- Frustrated desire to shrink or grow one's family Submucosal
(pedunculated) - Unmet desire to create something of lasting
importance Subserosal
- Frustration with inability or unwillingness to complete projects Subserosal
(pedunculated) - Unmet desire to create something of lasting
importance
Bacterial vaginosis
- Allowing a specific negative belief system to
control us Vaginismus - Unable or unwilling
to trust Non-infectious
vaginitis - Belief that girls are dirty or bad and serve
no useful purpose Trichomoniasis
- Feeling that one is not contributing to society, as if one is a parasite.
A recent life experience has awakened an unconscious recognition that
one is not fulfilling one's true life purpose Yeast infections
- A new negative belief system has just formed. Recognizing it, along
with treating the physical disorder, can hasten healing. Frustration
at never seeming to receive admiration, positive attention or recognition
for one's many (supposedly) selfless acts. See
martyr
Feeling impotent.
Victims of this family of diseases are often victims of situations seemingly
beyond their control. The best protection is often the most difficult:
believe - indeed, know - that one person can bring profound change into
her or his world
Unable to grasp
and absorb the key meaning of an ongoing issue. There's a piece of critical
information missing that would connect the pieces of the puzzle, if
only it could be recognized.
Meditate to find the answer
Represents how
we walk our spiritual path Bow-legged - Pretending
that there’s nothing wrong, even though it feels as if one’s world is
going to fall apart Duck-footed -
Feeling justified in taking more than one's fair share Fast - Deep need to be in
control,
avoidance Knock-kneed -
Fear, fear, fear and not having been taught the emotional tools
with which to set it aside Pigeon-toed -
Self-righteous,
victim Shin splints - Trying
too hard to get something distasteful over and done with Slow - Deep need to re-assert
one's
control over someone who wants to gain independence Stiff arms -
Arrogance with feigned humility. Trying to keep emotions hidden Swaying - "Look at me!" Tip-toed -
Fear, walking on eggshells. Trying to meet someone else's expectations.
Desire to sneak up and startle people (control)
Belief that
one is unworthy Feet (also known as Veruca)
- Walking one’s path in a cold, heartless way and
blaming someone for making us be that way Hands -
Fear that one's work is useless and/or unappreciated Genitals - Belief that
sex is
shameful, or that one's sexual history is shameful and that punishment
is required
A new negative
belief system has just formed. Recognizing it, along with treating the
physical disorder, can hasten healing. Frustration at never seeming
to receive admiration, positive attention or recognition for our many
(supposedly) selfless acts. See
martyr
Yellow Fever - Acute -
Fear that a recent life choice that was made for the wrong reasons
will backfire Yellow Fever - Toxic
- Wanting to escape the inevitable negative results of that choice
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